When you feel uncomfortable in a situation or conversation, what do you do?
I have been examining and observing this in my own life lately. I notice that there are times, I am uncomfortable with a situation or interaction. My initial reaction might be to project. What does projecting really mean? For me it means, I want to off load what I am feeling so I don't have to feel it as intensely or at all. Here's how it starts off...
I might call a friend and "complain." But what I am really doing is sharing the burden of how I am feeling in the moment. The exercise of speaking about it out load, gets the energy out of my body and sends it to who I am talking to.
I caught myself doing this....I even came clean and told my friend, I am projecting my burden of uncomfortable feelings on you because I don't like how it is making me feel. My dear friend said, "oh, I do that too..." We all do this, our Ego has a great way of framing it in our thoughts. We start to agree and formulate a plan to rid ourselves of this pain and discomfort. So what is really going on?
This uncomfortable feeling usually says "your wrong." This can lead to feelings of unworthiness. This thought thread, if followed may then lead to sadness, anxiety or even depression, depending on your pattern of dealing with emotions. What to do?
Practice, Practice, Practice
Observe yourself like an outsider. Start by monitoring what you say in the moment. Stop and let yourself examine how you are feeling in a situation or conversation . When the bigger uncomfortable situation or conversation occurs, you will be able to remind yourself to check in and see how you are feeling. Discern how you want to handle the situation.
Being honest with yourself, creates more happiness, and more happiness creates better results in your life. So whatcha gonna do? Get happy!!